B F F ?
i wrote this earlier in my head while sitting on a toilet bowl before typing it on my MacBook. it started with a seed of thought that sprouted into leaves of ideas in many directions.
i always proudly claim that i have a handful of best friends. my definition of “best friend” is someone who never fails to be there for you whenever you fall. they are people who understand that we have our own lives, and will never get jealous if we are busy having coffee with others instead. they are imperfect people whom we’ve come to accept and love just like our family.
a|x had a new friend from Spain who came to work in KL. he suggested a barbeque and asked me to invite my girl friends over. i was about to pre-introduce my best friends to him with words, when i was interrupted by the sentence “these girls are always her BEST friends. but the last time they saw each other, was like 3 months ago!” then it got me wondering – is a “best friend” rank measured by how frequent we update its status?
one thing i love about a|x is his genuine nature to care about the welfare of my friends. i enjoy habituating in a domestic space with someone i love a lil too much, and that makes it easy to forget about the World when life gets so comfortable. when i get stuck in that rut for too long, a|x would offer to be our BFF planner so we can revive our idle friendships. apparently the girls in Spain, aren’t like that.
so is it true, that we Asian girls are only great friends when we’re single? do we really neglect our girl friends when we’re in a relationship? if we do, does that mean we don’t (deserve to) have best friends? is it normal to prioritize our boyfriend? what is the perfect balance between our girl and boy friends? is my definition of “best friend”, wrong?